Love Me, Don't Leave Me: Overcoming Fear of Abandonment and Building Lasting, Loving Relationships

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Your fears and your beliefs about yourself, others, and your world are the result of your childhood and adolescent experiences. The main focus of this book is for people with a fear of abandonment, but it also goes in depth with other common anxieties that hinder relationships. Our partners should not suffer from our core belief triggers but it is us who should love our self at those times. Her passion is coaching individuals in creating and maintaining healthy relationships by bringing awareness to core beliefs and the related patterns of behavior, which often work unconsciously to limit connections with others. But if you are denied these basic comforts early in life, whether through a lack of physical affection or emotional bonding, you may develop intense fears of abandonment that can last well into adulthood―fears so powerful that they can actually cause you to push people away.

You may be asking yourself if it’s worth it to risk making yourself vulnerable to the possibility of more emotional pain when you feel like you’ve experienced enough for a lifetime. Now, you probably feel that the beliefs that formed as a result of these factors are controlling you. Most of us had some struggles in relationships and I believe this book its a good choice to understand the fear of abandonment as well as toxic behaviours and toxic people.You may never lose the fear of abandonment or mistrust and negative emotions, but you can help yourself to not fall back into that way of thinking everytime a trigger sets you off. Książka opiera się na terapii schematów, o której osobiście wiem dość mało, jednak na podstawie posiadanej wiedzy szanuję to, co sobą reprezentuje. These emotions can feel intolerable, and the desire to get rid of them or minimize them can cause you to behave in ways that may have worked in the past. In treatment and her books, she tries to help individuals create and maintain healthy relationships by encouraging them to become aware of the fears an. She gives you help literally and tells you how to recognize that you’ve been triggered and how to deal with it.

In chapter 3 you will be led through an explanation and examination of common traps (mind, behavioral, and relationship) that are likely creating additional pain for you.

If you still cannot find the link between your childhood experiences and your behavior in relationships, don’t worry, the next section will help you with that! Probably a good starting point for newcomers to the world of therapy who experience emotions around abandonment. Children who don’t experience a secure attachment don’t feel safe—­the stage has been set for them to be overwhelmed by fear and negative emotions that would eclipse their ability to manage their impulses and desires. The easiest way to do this would be to engage in activities that occupy your mind or practice mindfulness.